Gin House Blues

Race. Gender. Work. Dating. Good Living.

bell hooks = truth

bell hooks said: 

“Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment…’dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love — which is to transform us.’ Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.”

Ooh wee - this is important for me to remember just…period. 

Things Your Man Should Not Get A Cookie For

super-eklectic1:

franticinkjizz:

Grocery Shopping
Laundry
Changing a diaper
Spending time with their kid - fyi it’s not called babysitting
Sweeping the living room
Washing the dishes
Cooking a meal
Ironing
Working

These things can be appreciated - someone pulling their weight in the partnership is great.

But more importantly, this is adulthood. We ain’t popping champagne for shit like this.

#justathought

thank you!

(via bettacomecorrect)

theboofromnaboo:

dreamhampton1:

Joyce Vincent was 41 when she was found dead in her home, but she was 38 when she died. For three years, from 2003-2006, her body lay surrounded by Christmas gifts she was planning to wrap; the television still on. How does this happen? Especially to a woman who was social, who two-years prior had a high-powered job at Ernst and Young, who had rubbed elbows with celebrities, and who wanted to get married? That’s what Carol Morley set to find out. But her new documentary film, “Dreams of a Life,” is about more than just Joyce Vincent, a young, beautiful London woman whose parents were from the Caribbean and who no one seemed to miss when she was gone. It’s about life, death, and loneliness.”

(Source: madamenoire.com, via sloaneamelia)